How taking control can make things worse.
In my Buddha thought for today, I am reminded of the importance of letting go. By holding on too tightly and trying to make sure everything is in order can actually make a situation worse. I grew up in a dysfunctional and pretty abusive family. For all intents and purposes I was an Adult Child of an Alcoholic from my father. My mother struggled with depression and other issues her entire life. What we didn't understand at the time was that she was most likely Bi-Polar. I was the family hero, the one who had to keep everything from falling apart. It seemed to help at the time, but in adulthood, our coping mechanisms can become our biggest enemy. As a church pastor, I constantly struggled with doing things the "right" way. Without realizing it, I ran the church like it was my family of origin. Keep things moving, do what you are supposed to do, and if something looks like it might fail, jump in and take over and they'll think you are the hero. Of course, sometimes th...